Sunday, July 6, 2014

Subracting adds Happiness!

I love this quote I posted below! I think it is so true! It got me thinking about what other things I could stop doing to become happy. When it comes to happiness in life most people think about what they need to add or start doing to become happier and more fulfilled. But sometimes happiness in life is a matter of subtracting some negative behaviors. Consider what happens when you stop doing the following things.
 

Comparing

Compare and despair people! It's as simple as that! We all know that every single person on this planet is different and unique. So, why do we still compare ourselves to other people? Maybe it's human nature but all I know is you will not be happy when you compare your life, looks, situation or circumstances with anyone else. When you stop comparing yourself to others and love yourself instead life gets better. Whenever I have compared myself to someone and feel I am lacking in some way or another it doesn't make me feel happy or happy for the other person I am comparing myself too. When you stop comparing you realize there is an infinite amount of room for everyone to be amazing, successful, smart and gorgeous! So, let's stop comparing and let's all start supporting, loving and lifting each other up instead!  

Blaming

People make mistakes. Family, friends, and employees sometimes don't do what you want or meet your expectations. So you blame them for your problems. But you're also to blame. Taking responsibility when things go wrong instead of blaming others is empowering! When you take responsibility you focus on what YOU can do to be better or smarter. We can't control outside circumstances or people but we can control how we react to them. When we stop playing the blame game and start looking inward at how to be better...life starts becoming a lot easier! 

Impressing

No one likes you for your clothes, your car, or any possession, title, or accomplishment you have achieved. Those are all "things." People may like your things but that doesn't mean they like you! Big difference! Any relationship that is not based on substance is not a real relationship. Genuine relationships make you happier, and you'll only form genuine relationships when you stop trying to impress and start trying to just be yourself.

Clinging

Have you noticed when you're afraid or insecure, you hold on tightly to what you know, even if what you know isn't particularly good for you?! I've learned this lesson over and over again in my own life! Holding on to what you think you need won't make you happier! Maybe you think you can't do it on your own but how will you know unless you try? Letting go so you can reach for and try to get what you want will give you strength..we are all so much stronger than we believe or give ourselves credit for! Even if you don't succeed in getting what you want, the act of trying alone will make you feel better about yourself! Letting go of toxic people, situations, habits and relationships allow room for a new healthier and happy life. So let go!!! 

Controlling

The one thing you can control in this life is you! If you find yourself trying to control other people or situations, you will literally go insane and drive everyone else insane in the process! Let people be who they are! I literally use to think I could control people or any outcome or situation. OMG...ya that didn't work out so well and I was exhausted mentally, physically and emotionally! This took me years to learn and I'm still learning! But seriously think about it-who are you to tell anyone how they should live their life?! Uh...are you God? Ya, I didn't think so! Think back to a time in your own life when someone tried to control you, told you how to act, what to do or what to believe. Pretty sure you probably didn't like it and pretty sure it probably didn't make you feel very good! When we try to control others it doesn't make you feel good inside either, it's stressful and it's a battle that you won't win! So, find and surround yourself with people who want to go where you're going and realize it's not your job to fix, change or control anyone!  

Criticizing

Yeah, you're more educated. Yeah, you're more experienced. Yeah, you've been around more blocks and climbed more mountains and slayed more dragons. That doesn't make you smarter, or better, or more insightful. That just makes you you! Unique, matchless, one of a kind, but in the end, just you! Just like everyone else—including your family, friends and people you work with. Everyone is different: not better, not worse, just different. Appreciate the differences instead of the shortcomings and you'll see people and yourself in a better light.

Preaching

Criticizing has a brother. His name is Preaching. They share the same father: Judging. The higher you rise and the more you accomplish, the more likely you are to think you know everything and to tell people everything you think you know. When you speak with more finality than foundation, people may hear you but they don't listen. Few things are sadder and leave you feeling less happy.

Dwelling

The past is valuable. Learn from your mistakes. Learn from the mistakes of others. Then let it go! Easier said than done? It depends on your thoughts. When something bad happens to you, see that as a chance to learn something you didn't know. When another person makes a mistake, see that as an opportunity to be kind, forgiving, and understanding. The past is just training; it doesn't define you! Think about what went wrong, but only in terms of how you will make sure that, next time, you and the people around you will know how to make sure it goes right!

Fearing

We're all afraid: of what might or might not happen, of what we can't change, or what we won't be able to do, or how other people might perceive us. So it's easier to hesitate, to wait for the right moment, to decide we need to think a little longer or do some more research or explore a few more alternatives. Meanwhile days, weeks, months, and even years pass us by! And so do our dreams. Don't let your fears hold you back! Whatever you've been planning, whatever you've imagined, whatever you've dreamed of, get started on it today! If you want to start a business, take the first step. If you want to change careers, take the first step. If you want to expand or enter a new market or offer new products or services, take the first step. Put your fears aside and get started! Do something. Do anything!!!! Otherwise, today is gone. Once tomorrow comes, today is lost forever. Today is the most precious asset you own! 
If we can subtract a few of these behaviors out of our lives it opens up a space within us for added happiness and positivity with people and situations. Hope you all have an amazing Sunday! :)

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